Well, I have been a dad for 10 years. Wow, time is really officially moving on. I can’t believe it has been that long. My Sara is growing up and she is perfect in every way. Yesterday was her 10th birthday. It started with her calling me at work on my cell phone. I wished her a Happy Birthday and then I said “Are you a double digit yet?”. “No, I’m still a single digit” she would tell me because she was waiting for 7:2o pm which is the time when she was born. So she went off to school and Genie brought cupcakes to school. The night before she went to party city to get stuff for the school cupcakes and she got some cool balloons including two big ‘Hello Kitty’ balloons. I left work early at 12:30 so I could do some last minute shopping for her. I went across the street from work to Target and ‘Justice’ (a girls store). I got some cool stuff at both places (Target – wrapping paper, bows, necklace, Hello Kitty hats and gloves, Hello Kitty pants, etc..). At Justice I got a nice pair of blue pants, a blue shirt, and a speaker pillow that is a blue flower. I then went to the Burlington Center Mall and to a store called ‘Claire’s Accesories’ and I got Sara more Hello Kitty stuff (3 necklaces, a folder, a pocketbook). I then went to Sara’s house and Genie and I wrapped a bunch of presents quickly because Sara was coming home from school soon. We wrapped and then we saw Sara’s bus pull up so Genie kept wrapping upstairs while Sara’s grandmother went to the bus stop to get her. It had started raining and Sara got picked up by the SUV and they went around the block a few times so we had more wrapping time. Sara came home and I hugged her and wished her a Happy Birthday and I kept teasing her about the ‘double digit’. She was happy to see even more balloons and her gifts (on the steps) and she said she had a good birthday at school.
On the t.v. was a report of a plane crashing into a building in NYC. It turned out to be a small plane and not a terrorist attack but they had the t.v tuned to it loudly and Sara was even watching it. Eventually we turned it off but Sara was a little upset by the plane crash (not much, be she seemed concerned). Sara opened a few gifts (a necklace from grandmom, a gift from Genie’s friend Gail, a huge Hello Kitty card from me and a card from my Aunt Marge). Then we just hung out for a while and eventually we watched some of ‘The Corpse Bride’ which Sara opened (from Auntie Lucy). We went out and got a bunch of Chinese Food from Great Wall. Then we came home and ate and Sara opened presents. From Lucy she got DVD’s (Wallace and Gromit Were Rabbit, Little Mermaid Special Edition, ?) and from Genie’s brother Ed she got a nice Nike soccer ball and air pump. From Mom and Dad she got a Cars Xbox game, clothes, Japanese Language book (My First Thousand Words in Japanese), a stuffed lion/cat doll, and some more stuff. She is also getting more stuff next week at her Chuck E Cheese party. I have more DVD/CD and stuff to give her. I got her Wallace and Gromit and Corpse Bride and so did Auntie Lucy so we duplicated some stuff. Auntie Lucy gave her the same big Hello Kitty doll as me also.
I recorded a lot of the birthday on video and I took pics so it will be nice to watch back someday. It really was special. After dinner we cut the cake and sang Happy Birthday to Sara and then she opened her presents (above). Uncle Ed was showing her some soccer tips in the living room and she was happy. I gave her big hugs and I was happy and sad at the same time. So happy and proud of her, and yet so melancholy sad at the passing of time and her growing up. I don’t want to get old, no one does. It happens to all of us, If we are lucky but it still is a sad thing. I just think back on the ten years since Sara was born and it is filled with so many memories of her. So much has happened. Ten years is long time. This was a special birthday. It was a big day. I love my duck more than any other thing in the world.
Thursday I felt sad driving to work and all day at work. Just remembering the birthday and how it just goes by and these moments in life that mean so much . . they just go by. Even though I am enjoying them at the time. . there is no way to stop time and hold on to them forever and then all we have are memories which fade and are replaced with other moments. Although we hold these memories in our hearts and minds forever. They are what we are. They make us up as people.
I thought of Sara all day at work today (Thurs) and after work I met her and Genie at Models Sporting Goods to get her another pair of shin gaurds for soccer (blue of course) and she got one of those ball nets which let you kick the ball while holding it on a string in the net. I drove Sara to soccer practice and then I was going to drive to class but I just hung out and watched her for a while. Then I started driving to class but I ended up turning around and going back to the practice. I missed her too much (and I was late for class anyway) so I decided to go back and see more of the practice. She was in goal when I returned and after practice I was shooting the ball at her in the goal. She is supposed to play goalie in the next game (for the first time) so we are practicing her in the goal.
We listened to ‘They Might Be Giants – Flood’ in the car (she likes a few songs on that one) and I drove her home. She is the greatest. The very greatest in the world. It was worth missing class just to be with her. I would rather be with her than doing any other thing.
I only think about two things these days. The first is Sara. The second is getting back to music, photography and being creative. It is killing me inside to give up my creative side. I am doing it to make money and to save money for a secure future for myself and Sara. It is necessary and it requires great sacrifice. I am trying very hard to get through this phase of my life. I know 2007 will be much different. I have plans to change things next year that will enable me to get back to the things that I should be doing.
I have no choice. I must return to being me. I can never forget who I really am. I feel so much is about to bust out of me, in a good way. I am re-charging the battery by staying away from creativity for a while. I will be back and better than ever. It is a promise I made to myself and I intend to keep it. I have no choice.
Yesterday was cloudy but nice and then it rained later on pretty heavy. Today was cloudy but nice. Tonight was windy and even a bit cold as it got closer to 8pm. But around dinnertime it was really perfect. Colors on trees and a real nice autumn sun. Beautiful.